I'm somewhat suprised the VTI part wasn't furnished in the hardened state.
You really need to know the type of steel to harden it proper. If it is a low-carbon steel, the only alternative is to harden the surface, using a product such as Kasenit, or to use a carburizing flame (to add carbon to the surface) then quench.
Alloy steels (the good stuff) would require heating / holding at critical temperature (around 1400 F) before quenching in oil or water, again depending on the type of steel.
It might help if you share info about how you shaped the part, using a file, stone, emory-cloth?
Did it cut easily?
I haven't fooled with my OT's FP, but my R-M's pin's are definitely through-hardened, and made from a good grade of steel.
If push comes to shove, I'd recommend you use the Kasenit hardening. Beteen the carbon-enrichment/hardening at the surface (good for low-carbon steel), the heating/quenching involved (per the product directions) would improve the grain structure & hardness if it were a alloy-type steel. In either case (pun), you should have a more serviceable part. If not, you'll need a new firing pin in another 5K rounds...and you'll be even more expert at that time
FYI, Reasonably good quality FPs seem to last 10-15K
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