what is the hardest thing you ever had to go through ? tell everybody about it
mine was going through my grandpa having cancer ? yours?
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Hi, Heather. My hardest thing was having my mother have cancer. She lived with it for 22 years. She was sick, then better for awhile, then sick again, over and over, then she finally died. Thank you for sharing yours.
I think I have about three times that really come to mind. First, when my best friend was killed my junior year of high school. It was so unbelievable. Then my dad passed away when I was about 21. And then my mother passed away 6 years ago. They all meant so very much to me. My dad never got to see his granddaughters and my mom only got to see Parker, I was plaining on getting married when we found out she had cancer and then we moved the date up to June. She passed away in April or May of that year, I did get to tell her that she was going to be a grandmother again, though. Those were really hard times. I still have a rough time without my parents. I just really get to missing them, and also think what they are missing out with their grandchildren. With Robin, I think about what she would have been, where she would be, if she would have had kids. But God had a plan for them all!!! :angel:
Losing my mother was the worst thing to happen to me. She had been my best friend all my life, although I was never a Mamas' girl. Coming on the heels of losing my sister and brother-in-law in a car accident in 1993, the sudden death of my father in 1996, the sudden death of my husband in 2000, my mothers' death was almost too much to bear in 2002. I still have trouble dealing with it. God bless.
Quote from: sixdogsmom on May 30, 2008, 09:55:36 AM
Losing my mother was the worst thing to happen to me. She had been my best friend all my life, although I was never a Mamas' girl. Coming on the heels of losing my sister and brother-in-law in a car accident in 1993, the sudden death of my father in 1996, the sudden death of my husband in 2000, my mothers' death was almost too much to bear in 2002. I still have trouble dealing with it. God bless.
Wow.. what a load! :'(
SDM, that is 'way more than your share of sadness. I'm so sorry. I hope you have had plenty of help and support when it creeps up on you. :-[ :-*
I have Ted, and my brother and of course all the dogs and cats. I have my church and community also. I am changed by it for sure, but they say that God never gives you more than you can bear. So far so good!
For each one that was hard to live through, I managed to get through it with God's help and may be even in a better frame of mind.
My worse was My son dying at 39 and just a month before we lost him, his wife lost her battle with cancer, the day that I heard from the hospital about Bobby dying, my "Other-mother Gertrude Freeman" lost her battle with cancer,
The month after I came home from settling my son's estate (.North Carolina), my best friend Margaret Persinger passed away due to cancer............
later that same year 2002 I was told I had cancer...........and my dog of 15 years had to be put down while I was in North Carolina and just before all of this we all lived through 9/11.
I am just so greatful that I had my faith to lean on.............I can't see how anyone without faith in something/someone can get through the struggles of this world..........ALONE.
God help us all.
Whew! Some of you have really had some rough times and come through OK. I've had a few hard times, but nothing like that.
Goodness, after reading all of your posts I feel truly blessed to have never endured such a thing. I still have both parents, and step-parents. My grandparents are all still alive. My step-grandmother, Margaret Lord, passed away when I was in junior high. It was very hard for me. I'd never lost anyone that close to me. She taught me EVERYTHING I know about sewing. She helped me make my first quilt, which is proudly displayed in my living room, and always helped me with my 4-H projects. She was a truly amazing lady. I still think of her everyday when I walk into my living room and see that beautiful quilt.
Another difficult part of my life was when my grandfather, Vernon Weakley, had a stroke. I was in grade school and was absolutely terrified. I didn't know what that meant or if he would ever be okay. He had to learn how to walk, talk and do everyday activities all over again. I know it was a very difficult time for my father also. My grandfather is one of the strongest people I know, and I look up to him greatly.
And, the last would be...Becoming pregnant in high school. I was constantly bombarded with thoughts of burdening my family, and was terrified that they were ashamed of me. I had teachers who thought I would never go anywhere. I was a statistic. Some looked for me to fail, and never even complete high school. I lost friends, who didn't know how to "act" with a pregnant friend. I was very depressed and sad most of the time. I was on strict bed rest 7 months out of my pregnancy, and alone everyday until 6 o'clock when Billy came home. People looked at our relationship and figured it wouldn't last. I tried to remain strong. It was truly the hardest thing I have endured so far. I had my wonderful son in February 2005, my senior year. I passed the school year with excellent grades. I took a year off after high school - of course. And am now pursuing a degree in nursing.
Devyn, the difference lies in the fact that you coped courageously when you had to. Being older, we have all of lifes' experience to help; its' when young people suck it up and become men and women that I am truly impressed. You could have taken the easy way out, and nobody would have been the wiser. Congratulations young woman! God Bless you!
Thank you sixdogs...I never once complained, nor did I want anyone to feel sorry for me. I had gotten my self into that "situation" (somewhat), and I was going to pay the consequence. I am strongly against abortion, altough it was always in the back of my head. I was not about to use it as a form of birth control.
Quote from: Devyn-Leann on May 30, 2008, 03:22:58 PM
Becoming pregnant in high school......... I had teachers who thought I would never go anywhere. I was a statistic. Some looked for me to fail,
When my daughter became pregnant at 17 she was told the same thing by teachers and other people but she became determined to prove them all wrong. She took an accelerated program at high school and turned in all the work on a friday in November 1997 went into labor on sunday and gave birth to her preemie (who came with some major health problems) on tuesday. When Jess came home from the hospital at 3 months old she enrolled into college and got a part time job she graduated with her Associates degree when he was 4 years old and now works as a legal secretary. Jess is now a reasonably healthy 10 year old with a mild form of Cerebral palsy and in March of this year his Mom and Dad (finally) got married. I am extremly proud of my daughter who like you decided that she was not going to let herself become a statistic
Quote from: MarineMom on May 31, 2008, 07:27:05 AM
Quote from: Devyn-Leann on May 30, 2008, 03:22:58 PM
Becoming pregnant in high school......... I had teachers who thought I would never go anywhere. I was a statistic. Some looked for me to fail,
When my daughter became pregnant at 17 she was told the same thing by teachers and other people but she became determined to prove them all wrong. She took an accelerated program at high school and turned in all the work on a friday in November 1997 went into labor on sunday and gave birth to her preemie (who came with some major health problems) on tuesday. When Jess came home from the hospital at 3 months old she enrolled into college and got a part time job she graduated with her Associates degree when he was 4 years old and now works as a legal secretary. Jess is now a reasonably healthy 10 year old with a mild form of Cerebral palsy and in March of this year his Mom and Dad (finally) got married. I am extremly proud of my daughter who like you decided that she was not going to let herself become a statistic
Wow!! That is a wonderful story! I believe not every teen mother should be a statistic. There are some of us who are completely responsible! We raise our own children and do not pawn them off on our parents, or others. It's girls (or women) like that who disgust me. I do not think I was ready to be a parent, but I rose to the occasion and not once put my child on someone else. It was very difficult juggling school work, house work, and taking care of a baby. I had also been in my relationship more than a year when I had my son, his father was not some "random" guy. Okay, I'm on a soapbox now so I'll stop.
But marinemom, I highly commend your daughter. What a courageous woman!
Quote from: Devyn-Leann on May 31, 2008, 12:17:53 PM
What a courageous woman!
And so are you ---it is young women like you and my daughter and the many others like you who show the world that making a mistake (not really the word I want but can't think of a better one) is not a recipe for disaster and life on welfare but can be turned into a learning and growing experience with some great rewards (and one of the best is when that little one comes up with a dandelion picked just for you and says I love you mommy,) unfortunately you are not the ones who make the headlines but you are great examples for the ones who come behind you and can look to you and say if Devyn and Angie can do it then so can I.
I have been fortunate so far and haven't had to deal with too much that has been overly traumatic.
Mama nd daddy and my sister are all still here with me.. My family is healthy and happy. My grandchildren are healthy happy and awesome. My health is good.
I am blessed 1,000 times over. :)
When my wonderful Grandma Workman crossed over and went home.. I was sad.. but also I knew that she was having the time of her life on the other side.
How can you selfishly want to keep someone here when they have decided it is time for their time on earth to be done. I felt sorry for my mom and those of us who were left here .. but I "feel" her quite a lot and mama has had some "visits' from her letting her know that she is still checking in with us. That is so cool..and just because she isn't her in the body.. she is DEFINITELY alive and well on the other side...so until I can see her again .. I talk to her about every day about "things". I know she can pop in and out and that she listens to me. She is and was a huge part of my heart...and I do miss getting to hug her.
But............
What I found to be hard for me was turning loose of my boys and allowing them to become men. This of course started happening when they became 15 and up.. and when Danny left for college I went into a huge midlife crisis...and really hung onto Derek.
( poor kid :D ) Then when Derek left and went to work for Raytheon and lived with Danny in Wichita, I really was sad. Happy ..but "empty nest sad".. I absolutely love being a mother, so I wanted to kinda keep them with me forever.. ( ::) ::) *They of course didn't want that ;D ;D LOL)
Now I know that I am weird where my kids are concerned , but Danny and Derek were ( and still are) extremely close to me...and to their dad.
We all have a 'family bond' that is a little different than most. Living in the same town.. we all love each other.. but we really and truly LIKE each other too. And doing just about everything together as a family..spending most all weekends together, getting together to play cards and go out to eat etc makes for a lot of family togetherness. Some family's couldn't do it, but we seem to manage quite well. And the daughter in laws are just fine with it and have blended in and are more like my daughters than my daughter in laws.
Some would say that I never really turned loose and in a way I didn't.. but being that close, I really have to make sure I don't interfere or poke my nose in when I shouldn't. Sometimes I succeed and ........... :-\ sometimes I don't, and believe me..they let me know about it when I don't. *yikes* :o.
But I think that was the most traumatic.. was finally having them gone from the house.
PS~~~ I'm over it now though.........
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Man when I meant what is so hard... I didn't think people would be kinda berring out their sole or so......No but im glad everybody can admit to WHAT IS SO HARD and not be scared to admit it so thanks for blogging out (sorta lol)