My point was, out of love for our families we keep the gun, even ready to make the 'ultimate sacrifice'.
What if the 'ultimate sacrifice' was to give up the gun or be estranged from your family.
RCJ
My Good John -
Regarding possible Family fears, I submit that you are not stuck with an "either-or" binary choice.
I believe that submitting to an unreasonable and pathological fear-based ultimatum is not healthy, wise , or even needed. Remember that such a fear-based demand stems from an irrational emotional mindset which will not entertain rational fact-based discussion.
Further, if one gives in to such an irrational fear-based demand, what will the next demand be?
I would advise, should it come to such a scenario, that you neither agree, disagree, or argue, but calmly state
" I understand your concern, I will deal with it."
then quietly lock away all firearms and accessories
where they won't be found and simply "declare them gone".
It is not necessary to elaborate on the topic, but it is wise to come up with a simple reply and stick to it such as
"They're gone, end of discussion"
and agree with your spouse to use only that and end all further conversation on the topic. If your daughter should insist (ie, but what about your hobby?) stand firm with "They are gone, and I will not discuss this topic any further". It is neither lying nor acquiescing, and refusing to discuss the topic keeps you from having to invent prevarication.
What "they" don't know and can't find won't hurt them. I do not believe that Full Disclosure to argumentative and/or unreasonable family members is ever a requirement. For example from my early childhood my mother forbade me from ever owning or riding motorcycles, so when I bought and rode them I never discussed it. I enjoyed my Suzuki dirt bike and Yamaha Virago V-twin for many years and since I never mentioned them; she never had cause to worry.
may I offer the following
1) paraphrase the old quote from Ben Franklin -
"Those who would give up Liberty to purchase Safety, will find they have neither."
2) Even the Dalai Lama, the Bodhisattva of Compassion, whom I admire greatly said
“If someone has a gun and is trying to kill you, it would be reasonable to shoot back with your own gun.” (May 15, 2001, The Seattle Times)
3) James Earl Jones: “The world is filled with violence. Because criminals carry guns, we decent law-abiding citizens should also have guns. Otherwise they will win and the decent people will lose.”
yhs
prof marvel