Yes, the wood is "antiqued" if Uberti did it, and they do a pretty good job. Most of the guns that you see pics of that people antiqued themselves, have wood that looks too new. The only time I bought an antiqued pistol was a 7 1/2" Model P, because it was an exact look-alike to my 1901 SAA, and I shoot them as a pair.
I have antiqued a few guns for others, but the only one I antiqued for myself was my TTN shotgun. It wasn't that pretty to start with, no case colors and the blue on those is not shiny. It looks great antiqued and I regularly get asked if it is an original.
Now, charcoal blue is another matter. I would pay extra for that any time. Yes, it is fragile but you just have to be more careful. I have two charcoal blue '73 carbines, and the finish is holding up pretty well, because you don't handle a rifle by the barrel. And my two charcoal blue conversions are holding up well because they have brass gripframes, and the gripframe is what wears the fastest on charcoal blue handguns. The holster wear is not excessive over 10 years, and I do like the silvery look where it has worn.
If we all liked the same thing, it would be pretty boring, eh?